Between a worldwide pandemic and the holidays, chances are you’ve probably argued with your spouse one or two times recently. However, there are others who may be fighting endlessly with their spouse. Whatever end of the spectrum you fall on, chances are he’d probably like to argue less. After all, you didn’t get married to argue every day.
The great news is that keeping your cool is often as simple as knowing the right tips.
Take a look at some of the best ways to argue less with your one and only.
Sometimes couples nag about things without getting to the root of the problem. Rather than nagging, try explaining why you are asking them to do what you want them to do. It’s a lot more convincing if you say something like, “Can you please clear your plate from the table because I’m concerned food left out will attract pests.” Rather than, “You never clear your plate!”
By requesting something with a reason behind it rather than demanding, you’re much less likely to get into an argument.
Choose Your Battles
Believe it or not, not everything you disagree on has to turn into an argument. There may be several times a week or even several times a day that you don’t see eye to eye on a subject. However, rather than trying to bulldoze your way into making them agree with you, sometimes you just have to pick the right battles. You have to consider what matters most to you. If you truly want to stop fighting, then it will be worth it to you to lose an argument once in a while.
One of the best ways to make sure that you stay on good terms is to point out what you like about the other once in a while. Giving compliments shows that you appreciate your spouse. The more that your spouse feels appreciated, the more that they’ll be willing to get along.
Compliments are one of the best ways to be kind. Just make sure that your compliments are sincere. If you truly love your spouse, then it won’t be hard to find things to compliment them on.
Make sure that your compliments aren’t just regarding looks either. Your compliments should also reflect what’s on the inside too.
Learn The Art of Disagreeing
The couples that are the happiest ones are those who know how to disagree without fighting. Learn how to express your disagreement in something without being disagreeable about it. Use words that aren’t judgmental and try the sandwich technique. This involves saying something positive with something less than positive in the middle sandwiched with something else positive at the end. The idea is not to come across as an attack, but rather a nice sandwich.